Dear Momma of Littles,
While sitting in church a few Sundays ago, my mind started wandering and my eyes were drawn to different people in our congregation. I was drawn to a family across the sanctuary several times.
What drew me there? The energetic little boy, a couple of years older than my Seth. I assume his legs were pumping under the seat because from the waist up he was rocking back and forth. He was smiling and looking around and every once in a while he would lean over and give his momma a hug or kiss.
I paid close attention to that momma. What was she going to do?
Insead of trying to pin her child to the seat because she was afraid he might distract others, she calmly allowed him to do what his body was screaming to do, move.
She did not push him away when he leaned over for a kiss. She even intiated the kiss a time or two when her little boy went to pull away.
Momma was happy, her son was happy, the rest of the family was happy, and I know that God was smiling down as well.
I thought about how I would look in that situation. With a little boy who couldn’t sit still, in a place where most would say stillness and quietness equal respect and honor, how would I respond?
Would I be like that momma, smiling and returning her son’s love, or would I turn into one of those “grumpy Christians”? One who lacked all joy and patience because my son was not sitting how I thought he should, one whose worry that my son would distract others, distracted myself from worship and praise, or one who secretly wondered if those I shared the row with would think I was a bad parent for not controlling my son.
I came to the conclusion that I would probably turn into a grumpy mom, because this a scenario that has happened in the past and that is how I reacted.don't deny someone the blessing that come with showing love, accept the love and love in return. Click To Tweet
This conclusion saddened me. As a thriving Christian I should be full of joy and patience (Galatians 5:22-25). The Giver of Life has given me the gifts of grace, mercy and eternal life, I have every reason in the world to be joyful!
We are also told to enter into God’s house with thanksgiving and joy.
Make a joyful noise to the Lord, all the earth! Serve the Lord with gladness! Come into his presence with singing! Know that the Lord, he is God! It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people and the sheep of his pasture.Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise. Give thanks to him and bless his name! For the Lord is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.
If I am worrying about how my child is acting in the service it takes my mind away from the real reason I came to church, praising God and blessing his name.
Dear momma of littles, please let your children love you.
That momma taught me another lesson: She returned her son’s obvious affection with delight.
Many times I find myself pushing my boys away because I am too busy, or dirty after a run or bike ride. I shouldn’t be denying them an opportunity to love, they don’t care that I am tired, grumpy or dirty, they are expressing their hearts, I should joyfully accept their hugs and kisses.
All of this led me to another thought…
do I joyfully accept my heavenly Father’s overtures of love, or do I push them away because I am dirty with pride, grumpy with selfishness and envy or tired of this small, light cross I have to carry?
Dear Momma of littles, while you are going through your day, whether you are surviving moment by moment or conquering each task with enthusiasm, don’t push away your husband or your children and their acts of love, but most importantly don’t push away your heavenly Father’s hand that is reaching out to shower you with blessings. Perhaps your husband and children are God’s way of blessing and loving you today.
Dear momma, look for those moments and accept them joyfully, no matter where you are. Let them love you. If you are all dressed up in the church sanctuary, if you are at home sweaty and sticky,or if you are in the aisle of the grocery store, don’t deny someone the blessing that come with showing love, accept the love and love in return.
We can work on it together.